This whole post was derived off a question I got regarding someone who is experiencing difficulties talking to the opposite sex (in regards to their personality meshing with the other's)

When you meet someone, what draws you to them? If it's their physical appearance, what's second? What keeps you coming back for more? This question, led me to further inspect how we now come to know someone's personality, and how we become accustomed to its quirks, flaws, etc. 

I've reduced it down to ....
You become aware of that person yes? You find them attractive. Maybe it's the way they style their hair, their walk, their voice. Perhaps it's their particular scent , the way they look at you, or how they say your name. You start to wonder about them, what makes them tick, what kind of food they like, maybe you might have something in common. You start to look for excuses to strike up conversation. The more time you spend with the person of interest, the more you either grow towards them or grow away from them. Sometimes personalities clash, sometimes they mesh. Sometimes you can build off another person, and sometimes they tear you down.

There's a lot of speculation when it comes to dating the opposite sex about the amount time you have to wait. Is it three days before you can call a girl after you get her number or five? Does it seem desperate if you text a person on your way home after a first date?, or will it help ease the nerves to know their reaction...How long should you wait to text someone back, a couple minutes will look like you're sitting by the phone waiting (because you are) and anything more than an hour will come off like you're not interested. But what if they're not a texter ? What if they're really into you, but they prefer to speak on the phone or in person. We've become a generation that's so quick to write people off because we think we know them, when in reality we haven't even started to strike the surface.

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, (insert socially acceptable form of stalking here), all methods to bypass the waiting and the awkwardness.fun.aggravation of getting to know the ins and outs of someone else. People today seem entitled to our deepest darkest secrets, the infrastructure behind what makes us tick, all because they've shared a picture of their #dessertporn. Don't get me wrong, I'm just as guilty of making assumptions about a person based on the things they post online, but I've been straying from that as of late. 

There is no substitution for knowing that a person is a lefty or that they snore when they've had too much to drink. No #throwbackthursday is going to explain the feeling they got when they . There isn't a tweet that's going to each you to recognize the face of someone that's had a rough day at work and doesn't want to be bothered. Nor a vine that mirrors how tightly they can squeeze your hand during a scary movie.

So instead of jumping into what you think  you know about a person based on their looks, Pinterest boards, or status updates. How about you dive into their personality irl before you pass judgement.

keep it raw.